Tuesday, September 11, 2007

The Truth About Sex

Greetings sisters!
I hope that you were just as blessed at the Deeper Still Event this weekend as Miss Beth, Miss Kay and I were. It was a THRILL to be with you and spend time together in God's word.
If you stayed until the end on Saturday then you got to be a part of the question and answer session. Needless to say, we had so much fun and laughed so hard that our sides hurt. I had hand prints on my knees from slapping them so hard. The three of us never know what we are going to say or how that part of the event will turn out so we were SOOOO surprised by the unexpected surge of laughter and hilarity that erupted during that time. It was a BLAST.

You'll recall, one of the questions was about how to make marriage work more smoothly; specifically, how to get our husbands to speak our love language. After Miss Kay gave such a Biblically sound answer (as only she can) we began joking about how much sex plays a roll in this as well. We jokingly suggested that

since men are created in such a way that a physical relationship with their wives is a necessity, that if we would just offer it more often are problems would be solved. O MY. . .once the "S" word was mentioned and that door was swung open, the three of us walked right in and everything just went down hill from there!

As I considered the weekend, I felt pressed to remind all of us that sex is a GIFT from God for married couples. It should never be used by a wife (or a husband for that matter) as a tool to manipulate her spouse to do or not do something. The only time that Scripture speaks of permitting a couple to withold sex is when both parties AGREE on it and it is for a greater spiritual purpose (1 Corinthians 7:5). Whether extending ourselves physically or choosing not to do so, neither should be done for the intent of getting what we want out of him. Rather our goal should be to bless our husbands and then trust God in prayer to turn their hearts in our directions if and when He chooses to do so.

Blessings to you today sweet sisters. I am praying God's hand on you and with you as you continue to press in Deeper Still.
Priscilla
www.goingbeyond.com

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Comments (27)

Donna Entrekin said...

Eight ladies from our small church in northwest Alabama enjoyed the conference sooo much and believe the Lord had a message for our church because we are in a crossroads, after having gone through a devastating time, and we will seek God's answer through prayer and obedience. Thank you Kay for your timely comments to our hearts, as well as Priscilla and Beth. Sincerely, Donna Entrekin

Posted by Donna Entrekin | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Dori said...

Priscilla,

I didn't get to stay for that time and I'm so bummed because it sounds like everyone had a ball!!

I just wanted to thank you, though, for thinking enough of us and wanting to be faithful to your calling enough to clarify what was said in jest but might have been taken seriously by some.

The weekend was just precious and I received quite a rhema word this weekend. Bless you, Beth and Kay for even wanting to come and minister to us in that way.

All this and Jesus, too!
Dori

Posted by Dori | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Ann said...

Thank you so much for this weekend. I was praying for something specific in my life and in different ways all three of you ladies addressed that specific issue. God is using you; Pricilla, Beth and Kaye to accomplish "a good work" in many women's lives. I know I took several thing home that will change my life forever. I pray the Lord will multiply the time with your families that you spend ministering to others.
God Bless,
Ann

Posted by Ann | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Kathy Van Liew said...

I have been to many seminars, conferences, etc. THIS ONE has been life-changing. I always learn a lot when I listen to God's Word being taught, but this event was more a one-on-one between the Maker of the Universe and me!

I was asked at the last minute if I would like to take a lady's place; she had already registered and paid for the conference, but just wasn't able to go. I said yes because I was asked by my table leader at our Bible study (Currently going through Beth Moore's, "A Heart Like His") and wanted to get to know her and the other gals from the church better.

I was blown away with the truth of forgiveness, equipping, blessing, etc. Concepts that I have heard many times in my 30+ years as a believer, but concepts that seemed brand new to me as of this past weekend. I guess I was just needing to hear what was taught and shared.

Because of the vulnerability of the three of our precious speakers; Beth, Kay and Priscilla, I came away knowing that God can use my past sins for HIS glory. I have been more than a little unsure of whether it was a positive thing to share where I was to where God has brought me. I have felt a "nudging" towards a speaking and a writing ministry in the past, but this nagging question has been keeping me from being open to that next step. I am willing and waiting and am preparing for how God will use me.

I am about to IMPLODE/EXPLODE I have so much joy and oh, the freedom! I have been made free from fear, my past, speaking out about my life, etc.

I am already talking to others from our church; Crosspoint Community in Gadsden, Alabama and other Christian friends and family in the area about registering for next year's event in Atlanta. Sixteen ladies (mostly from our church) traveled up together from here to Nashville. I can see that number easily doubling or tripling (or more!) because of the testimonies of our little group.

I truly did receive a double portion of anointed blessing through what was shared. I had recently fallen in love with the Bible and now I realize that I am supposed to spread that around!

God's richest blessings on you Beth, Kay, and Priscilla, your families and the people at Lifeway who made this event possible. I also pray a hedge of protection around each of you as you continue to bodly proclaim the Good News of Jesus Christ. I also ask for God to help those of us who were spoken to this past weekend to be bold and to allow God to work in us as He sees best.

Held in His loving arms,
Kathy Van Liew
Gadsden, AL

Posted by Kathy Van Liew | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Jennifer said...

What a blessing this weekend in Nashville was!! Upon coming home God's word just seems to be alive and coming off the page. Priscilla, Beth and Kay really have a hunger for the Lord and his word that is contagious! The question and answer time was the perfect finishing touch! It just reminded me how real the ladies truly are. I feel like I could just sit down with each of them and have lunch!! Their honesty and willingness to be used encourages me to continue to grow deeper still!

Posted by Jennifer | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Donna Thomas said...

Dear Priscilla, Beth and Kay;

Oh, what dear precious sisters in Christ you are! We were so blessed this weekend at the Curb Center. When we were told before lunch to be back in our seats at 12:20 because there were three special surprises in store for us, well girls, I just thought I was going to CRY FOR JOY! What an unselfish act that was and such a blessing from the Lord! I want you all to know how that meant so much to me, for you all to rush over during your lunch break to come and visit with us. You are all truly unselfish, Godly Women who walk His walk and Godly women that encourage and uplift other women to continue in God's Will for their lives as well.

Love in Christ,

Donna Thomas
Arab, Alabama

Posted by Donna Thomas | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Lori Patton said...

Priscilla, it's great that you have come along to sweep up the mess, but I must admit, it was wonderful. It felt so good to laugh so hard. You and Beth may have been joking, but I think the funniest part is that Kay was dead serious, and as always, so correct. From attending several LPL events, I have learned to ALWAYS wait unitl the very very end. I find it to be the gravy on the potatoes, the chocolate on the ice cream, the froth on the coffee. I hate to see the end come but am always excited when it gets there. I watch women leave early and I want to grab them and say "you don't know what you're doing-you're gonna miss the best part". I know you three were concerned about running late, but hey, I waited 9 months for this weekend, gimme all you got. I came alone, so that I would not be distracted by "things" that can come about when you're in a group. I really wanted to focus. It was a struggle just to get there, and therefore I knew God had a word for me. The group thing is great, but sometimes, like the devotion in the booklet says, you've got to get alone with God and listen. Yes, you can be alone with God in a sea of beautiful women. I had a wonderful, meaningful time. I came hungry and was fed. I made some special new friends and was blessed. Thank you, all of you, for your committment to be used by God.

Posted by Lori Patton | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Patty said...

I was so blown away by Priscilla, Beth, and Kay. It definitely was a rhema word all weekend for me. It was as if the three ladies were sitting in my living room and I had told them some of the struggles I had been having. WOW, God certainly gives us what we need, doesn't He? Thank you ladies, for being so open and straight forward. While some of it was a little uncomfortable and convicting, it was DEFINITELY a word from God to me. How blessed I am to have a God who loves me that much. Thank you again for such an awesome weekend. I can't wait to meet up with you again in "my living room."

Posted by Patty | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Abby said...

What a blessing you are Miss Priscilla! I am a youngin' sister in the blog world, but blessed just the same! This was the first time I had ever heard you or Mama Kay speak, and I was just blown away--by all three of you. Just being a young 22, I know you are wise beyond your years and your passion for what you do is so encouraging. The confidence in our God that you brought blessed my heart so as I am in the middle of a transition period...just graduated with a degree that my senior year the Lord told me He didn't want me to use just yet. So I have moved cities, states, and zip codes and landed in Nashville to pursue the passions and dreams that He has placed on my heart. Thank you for reminding me to remember WHO I am and WHOSE I am on this journey that feels quite lonely sometimes. Whether anyone else ever understands, I know I'm where I am supposed to be, and following His heart and plan for me right now.
We've never met, and maybe we won't, but I consider you a friend nonetheless. ) You are a beautiful woman and I can't thank you enough for last weekend.
Much love...
Thank you for making me want to love Jesus more
Abby

Posted by Abby | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Fran said...

Oh Priscilla....
I just don't have the right words to express how great this past weekend was....I have never heard you speak before and just loved loved loved you and what you shared with us. I feel like we are close to the same age so there was a connection that I could just relate to you. Your message spoke loud and clear to me and I'm changed. THANK YOU!! There was just so much to absorb and digest so I'm still in the process of doing just that. I am having to post on my own blog in 2 parts because of my poor little brain not being able to articulate it all at one time!

It is so hard for me to balance working in my church, my family of 5, my relationship with God, and getting kids where they are supposed to be and hoping to feed them along the way. All 3 of you had such wisdom to share.

I'm so thrilled that I went and that I found Ms. Priscilla!! I have been listening to all my Travis praise and worship cd's and just grin from ear to ear when I think about you and Ms. Beth gettin a groove on at the end. Thanks for being the real deal and truly inspiring us to go "Deeper Still!"

Love to you. Blessings in all you do....
Fran

Posted by Fran | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Nikki said...

I have done 3 of Beth's Bible Studies and 1 of Priscilla's and LOVED them....so OF COURSE I had to go to Nashville and see them. I learn so much from them, they help me see God's Word in such a way I can understand it more clearly. Kay was also wonderful. A friend and I went for the weekend and had an AWESOME time. God was THERE with us. I learned so much and have such a closer bond with Him now. Thanks for the understanding and AWESOME WEEKEND!!!! I Will see you next time.

Thank you all and God Bless You.!!!

Thank God that he uses all of you to help women everywhere get closer to GOD!!!!!
Nikki

Posted by Nikki | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Kim said...

Thank you ladies for sacrificing your time to minister to us this past weekend. This was the first time that I had heard Priscilla and WOW, is God using her in a special way. We brought 104 women from our church and over and over, the ladies commented on Priscilla! Beth has always been my personal favorite, simply because I can relate to her but now I can say God will use Priscilla in my life as well. It's nice to see NEW faces serving our Lord and King. I have already been on the internet trying to find booking info for her. I would love to see her in our area! What a blessing she was! Thank you Priscilla and your brother, what a voice!! Worship was great!!

Posted by Kim | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Nancy Hamilton said...

It is evident that as you women made yourselves a living sacrifice for our Jesus this weekend, He used you to touch the lives of so many women this weekend, including mine. He used you to go to the deep places of my heart that I've allowed to remain hidden, where I am so deeply in love with him! Layer by layer, the covering is coming off- and, IM FREE! Praise you Father!

Thank you for allowing God to help you love Him so passionately and deeply. You are truly like a spring that cant be contained because of his overflowing, extravagant and wonderful LOVE!

To God be ALL the glory on every corner of this planet,
Nancy Hamilton

Posted by Nancy Hamilton | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

kristen said...

I've been in a spiritual battle which has caused me to question many things the past two weeks. You all were right when you said God had a specific reason for each one of us being there. All of the Bible studies were great, but I will have to say that God spoke directly to me through Priscilla's message. I truly felt God's presence as he took hold of me and reassurred me that I am His and He is mine. It was the affirmation I've been longing for. It was probably the most awesome worship experience I've ever been a part of. Thank you all (Priscilla, Beth, and Kay) for devoting your lives to Christ so that others will come to know HIM deeper still.

Posted by kristen | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Paulette said...

Priscilla ~
Are you not just the most precious thing ever??? Can't tell you how much I enjoyed this weekend! Loved every stinkin' minute of it! So encouraging to be around other women who are so passionately in love with Jesus. Do you just wonder sometimes how you could possibly love Him more and then He gives you a heart to do just that? Amazing!
I so hope that you are basking in His pleasure!
It is an honor and a priviledge to lift you and your ministry up in prayer.
Still praying for my girlfriend............. God is definitely working on her heart!!!
~paulette :-)

Posted by Paulette | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Judy Lusk said...

What a blessing this weekend in Nashville was. 13 ladies from our church in a small town In Prestonsburg, KY came and I wish we could go again this week. So much of all 3 ladies slapped me in the face. This past year until now has been "down in the pits" and I saw through David that God can still use you even when you are down there. My 6 year old grandshon had his legs amputated, my mother died unexpectedly, my young daughter had heart surgery, and now my husband of 22 years has cancer. Praise God for sustaining me from all the things that the devil has thrown at me during these times, trying to get me to pull away. Your words confirmed in my heart that HE is truly MY Saviour and I shall not be moved. Thank you, by the way we think Reba should do Beth's story, they are both feisty and have a "twang" in their voice. God bless your week.

Posted by Judy Lusk | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Laura said...

I just want to say thank you Kay, Priscilla and Beth for THE most wonderful conference I have ever attended. God knew where I would be at this time in my spiritual walk and battles, and I must say He spoke to me through all three of you concerning my crossroads at this time and I look forward to going deeper still into what God has waiting for me. I was so hungry for more when I got there and it was wonderful to be under such anointing from all three women and to be a part of the Holy Spirit raining down on the Curb Center - which by the way, was wonderful. Thank you for coming to share with us even for just a little while. That made it special. We never felt separated from "the group". My friend and I came from Greensboro, NC and my sister from Nashville. I knew God wanted me there way back in the spring and now I know why. Thank you all for being yourselves and for listening to the Holy Spirit bring us His Word. And Priscilla, as another lady put it, the end was just the icing on the cake--ya'll are nutty!! Thanks so much!

Posted by Laura | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Kim Tisdale said...

Ladies and Gentlemen,
You all were such a blessing to me this weekend. I added gentlemen because the music from Anthony, Travis, the band and especially Mandisa touched me completely and was the perfect addition to my worship. I ended up buying a CD of Mandisa and my 3 year old son already knows her name, what she looks like and 2 of the songs. He really likes her music too. Kay, Beth and Priscilla, you three are such passionate and strong women in Christ. I WANT WHAT YOU HAVE! I have been to several retreats and conferences as well as completed numerous bible studies which have prepared me to hear what I heard this past weekend. However, this is at the top of my list. I still feel different. I want and crave daily words from God. I feel more positive. I don't want my old self back with my same old routines. I want to serve God with all my heart, mind and soul. I can't wait to see what he has for me next. I lead Patriarch's at our church each week and I was able to bless the women there with some of the things I learned this weekend. Just imagine with 25,000 people there and them sharing what they learned how many people you will have touched in the end. What an awesome responsibility God has placed in your hands. I pray for each of you to wisely use it.

In Christ,

Kim

Posted by Kim Tisdale | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Ashley said...

First of all, this weekend was glorious. Thank you to all who followed in God's leading in bringing His Word to us in such a powerful and meaningful way, especially those behind the scenes.

Something that Kay pointed out in our "sex talk" at the Curb (you three had me laughing so hard I was crying) struck a tender spot for me. She referenced the verses about a wife's body not being her own. I am the victim of childhood abuse and have worked with the Lord for healing for several years now. I am a blissfully married woman of just 2 years, and sex (on my part) has been a big hurdle for me and my man. I was surprised at how I was so resistent to what Kay said at first-- the old thoughts came: "NO this is MY body and I must do whatever it takes to protect it!" I didn't know if there were any other women out there who might have had a similar response, but I wanted to encourage myself (and anyone else w/ a similar past) that my "ministry" to my husband is such a precious one that it is worth the pain of drudging up, dealing with, and overcoming any past sin or abuse.

Thank you Priscilla, Beth, and Kay, for helping me drive home even more that sex is a beautiful gift from God and not something that I need to fear.

Posted by Ashley | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Priscilla said...

Ashley,
What a great point to bring up. I'm so glad you did. For someone in a situation like yours I can certainly see how it would be difficult to extend yourself to your spouse.
This is what the enemy would have for all us. He wants SOMETHING - ANYTHING to cause us to feel "cold" towards our spouses or at least not desire physical relationships with them so that we miss out on the beauty of true intimacy in marriage. Memories from past abuse, past relationships and low self-esteem issues are some of the ways that the enemy does this.
Ashley, although many of us could never imagine the pain and regret that I recognize must come with your history (and I pray for your continued restoration sweet sister), you have brought up an important question that we all must ponder - why are we ALL (women) so often resistent to the notion of our bodies belonging to our husbands?
I certainly struggle with this. I'm glad that you have encouraged me/us to see the enemy's hand in this and call him to the carpet so that we can recognize why we feel that way and work on submitting to the Lord in this area.

Priscilla Shirer
www.goingbeyond.com

Posted by Priscilla | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

michelle hicks said...

Ashley, Nancy (I love you girl!), and all you ladies who made very transparent and honest posts above...

We love you and are praying God continues to touch your hearts in the most difficult and hidden places...taking you deeper still in your relationship with Jesus. We are blessed to hear your comments. Thank you from all the LifeWay Women's Event Team.

Posted by michelle hicks | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

trisha wesson said...

I came to Deeper Still expecting a blessing because we have participated in so many of Beth Moore's Bible Studies and certainly got a blessing from those. However I never expected God would speak to me with such power and conviction. You see I have tought Sunday School, led Senior Adult Activities and Youth Activities at our church for many years. I felt my relationship with God was so remarkable. But through this time spent with God who spoke through these ladies made me realize that I am not just a child of God among many but I am a child of God that he cares about independently, personally and he loves everything about me. He honors the desire of my heart to love and follow him even on the days I mess up. My desire is to know God more and more and more until my cup runneth over and pours all over anyone around me.
Thank you God for appointing me to be at the "Deeper Still Event", Nashville.

Trish Wesson
Odena Baptist Church

Posted by trisha wesson | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Beth said...

Ashley, I know exactly what you are going through. My husband and I just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary and I can honestly tell you that it has taken me that long to really be set free to take care of his needs. Some friends of mine gave me a book. I don't know if I can mention the name of the book on this website, but I will give it a shot. It's called Sheet Music. It will totally change your life. Be prepared because it is VERY Blunt. It does help though. Remember that what we go through always has a purpose. God is going to use this experience in our lives to help us reach out to others who have gone through this same horrible experience. I will pray for you. I will ask God to bring you to my remembrance. I don't want you to have to wait 20 years. My marriage is better now than it's ever been and that verse Kay read is right on target and has changed our lives. Sex is beautiful for a married couple. It's the most intimate gift we can give our man.

Posted by Beth | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Jeanette Latham said...

I came into the event in such a lousy mood. 2 of the people that I had bought tickets for had to cancel at the last minute and I hadn't been able to even give the tickets away. I was tired and irritable and I did not have the frame of mind that I usually do for one of these events. As soon as the lights came down and the music started, God covered me with his love!! I just can't explain what came over me, it still brings me to tears. This weekend was such a blessing to me...I felt so full of the Spirit. I haven't been this full in a long time and I thank you for being the vessel. You three women are truly blessed by God. Thank you for your ministry. I can't wait for Atlanta next year!
Jeanette Latham
Dunmor Baptist Church

Posted by Jeanette Latham | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Becky Brown said...

The weekend was spectacular! As we talked about it on the way back to Tuscaloosa my friend said that she had been to several similar events and they were good and you walked away feeling uplifted, but never truly changed. This time she felt changed. I comtemplated her thoughts and realized that she was right. I have had difficult times in my, the death of a child from leukemia, the death of my mother from ovarian cancer, and as Beth said I must get over my devastation. I have for the most part, but the one thing that I came away with was the importance of digging in God's Word for my own answers, not reading someone elses answers from God. I am studying the "inductive method" and have ordered the Inductive Bible. I know God has told me over the last 19 years to write about my journey with Him through Nakole's illness but I have not been obedient. The only way to grow from this point is my relationship with Him is to go to His Word personaly and to be obedient.
I'm leading "A Heart Like His" at my church and when Pricilla started speaking about David I knew I was where I was suppose to be. I so want to be a woman after God's own Heart!!!
I can't wait for the June event. I already have my confirmation and am encouraging everyone I know to go and receive a BLESSING!!!
I love you ladies and thank you for being obedient to God's call on your life. You have blessed me!
Becky Brown

Posted by Becky Brown | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Becky Brown said...

The weekend was spectacular! As we talked about it on the way back to Tuscaloosa my friend said that she had been to several similar events and they were good and you walked away feeling uplifted, but never truly changed. This time she felt changed. I comtemplated her thoughts and realized that she was right. I have had difficult times in my, the death of a child from leukemia, the death of my mother from ovarian cancer, and as Beth said I must get over my devastation. I have for the most part, but the one thing that I came away with was the importance of digging in God's Word for my own answers, not reading someone elses answers from God. I am studying the "inductive method" and have ordered the Inductive Bible. I know God has told me over the last 19 years to write about my journey with Him through Nakole's illness but I have not been obedient. The only way to grow from this point is my relationship with Him is to go to His Word personaly and to be obedient.
I'm leading "A Heart Like His" at my church and when Pricilla started speaking about David I knew I was where I was suppose to be. I so want to be a woman after God's own Heart!!!
I can't wait for the June event. I already have my confirmation and am encouraging everyone I know to go and receive a BLESSING!!!
I love you ladies and thank you for being obedient to God's call on your life. You have blessed me!
Becky Brown
PS- Anyone in the Tuscaloosa, Alabama area that attended The Nashville Event and would like to get together and share and pray lets meet at Los Calentes', on McFarland Blvd, on Monday Oct.15 at 6;00.(We love our Mexican food in Alabama too.)

Posted by Becky Brown | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

Rosetta Ball said...

There were 11 of us in our group and I can't even begin to say how grateful we are to Kay, Beth, and Priscilla for obeying the Holy Spirit and saying what we needed to hear. My desire it to know the Lord Deeper Still and for Him to be pleased with my life. I love the Lord so much and am so thankful for that great weekend. I am so thankful to my husband who stayed home with my 2 kids so I could go 6 hours from home to hear from the Lord. I can't wait to go to another conference.

Posted by Rosetta Ball | Sep 11, 2007 at 12:32 PM

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