Small groups are the heart of ministry to girls. That's the place where real ministry takes place. So how can you create a good small group? Here are five simple principles:
1. Set the right atmosphere. Make sure girls know that your group is a safe place where questions can be asked without judgment or criticism. Allow girls to discover truth for themselves (don't answer your own questions!). Be comfortable with silence. Set the example by being honest and real and vulnerable and transparent. All of these elements contribute to the right atmosphere.
2. Pick the right place. Opening up your home is a great way to provide the girls with an opportunity to get to know you on your own turf. Help them feel at home when they are with you and allow them to observe you with your family. You may even want to ask a senior adult to open her home as a host (she doesn't have to lead the group). By doing so, you've opened the doors for generational ministry.
3. Develop a plan. Give them opportunities to tell you areas they are interested in. They will appreciate it if you don't assume you already know what they need to know. Also take note of where the girls are spiritually. Are some of them new Christians? How would you say they are growing in their spiritual walk? Having an idea of the spiritual level of your girls will help you in choosing what study material to use. If you need a plan for areas of discipleship, checkout LifeWay's KNOWN student development strategy.
4. Give them time to play. Plan outside activities beyond your normal meeting times. Remember that your relationship with the girls and their relationships with one another build the foundation of having a successful and strong small group. Go on a shopping trip or plan a retreat. Surprise them with a secret day you have conjured up and you will be well on your way to creating lasting memories!
5. Give them time to get their hands dirty. Provide ministry opportunities to take your group beyond an inward focus. Make gift baskets for the widows in your church or community and deliver them to their homes. Plan a craft for the holidays or bake them something special. Surprise some women in your church by taking them potted flowers.
Adapted from, "Girls Only: Beginning Basics for a Small Group" by Trish Davis. Used by permission.
What elements have contributed to success in your small groups?
Hi Pam, I was in your class on Friday at 10:45, you had mentioned you could send a copy of the video you showed us for use at our church. I already have 2 women wanting to get things going in a girls ministry!