Say it Pleasantly - Proverbs 16:21
"The wise heart will be called discerning, and sweetness of speech increases persuasiveness." Communication experts tell us that only 7% of communication is content and 38% is tone of voice. Just because someone loves you, like your spouse, doesn't mean an abrasive tone in your voice is appealing. No one likes to be patronized, spoken to rudely or sharply, and no one likes to constantly be spoken to in a coarse tone. It is important that if we want others to hear us and to listen when we speak, we must scrutinize our communication habits and maintain a pleasant tone.

Unfortunately, many married couples are living in a cycle of abrasiveness. Couples speak to each other in ways they would never think of speaking to their co-workers, friends, acquaintances, and even perfect strangers. We blame it on stress, comfort, and total acceptance. We believe our spouses will love us, regardless of our attitudes and actions. In reality, our abrasive tone and unkind words are slowly chipping away at our spouse's self-esteem and can tear dangerous holes in our relationship. If you find yourself in this type of cycle, commit today to become a "cycle-breaker". Be determined to speak in a way that glorifies your Lord and uplifts your spouse. Don't get discouraged if you don't see immediate results. Continue to pour sweet words of kindness over your spouse, and don't be surprised if your relationship begins to grow sweeter, too!

Next time..... Principle #3 - Say it Briefly
Blessings to you.....
Gary and Kristin