Introduction

Hi, I am Harry(H).

And I am Stefini(S).

(H&S) Since we are new to this blogging thing, we thought we would start by sharing our thoughts on how we expect to contribute on this site. In our bio we presented ourselves as "ordinary people". Knowing there are already some great experts contributing here, we thought we would take the approach of giving you a little bit of an inside look at our "ordinary" marriage, sharing some of our daily life and issues. By doing this we hope you will see we struggle and sometimes "fight" just like you. However, we also hope you will see issues can be handled peacefully (we call it fighting fair) and can be worked out to a resolution.

(H) After all, "making up" can be lots of fun!!

(S) We believe if you have God in the center of your marriage, good communication

(H) and a good sex life,

(S) you will have a joyous marriage and God will say "Well done my good and faithful servants"

(H) I was travelling with a non-Christian coworker recently and we were having a conversation about marriage. He was divorced and recently remarried and I had already noticed he took whatever opportunity he could to call his wife. As we talked he shared that he had very poor communication in his first marriage and vowed never to be like that again. He would no longer "bottle things" up and when there were issues he would face them head on. He also shared how great a relationship he has with his new wife as a result of his efforts for open communication.

Gentlemen, we can all learn from this example. We need to work harder at being willing to share our feelings and not holding them in, making sure that our wives are on the inside of our lives - not on the outside trying to look in. It takes effort, but it is worth the reward. Don't be like my coworker and let your marriage fail before learning the value and importance of good communication with your wife.

This is the "what we need to do". Gary and Kristen are blogging an excellent series, "Can you hear me now?", on the how to do it. Please take the time to read it.

May the Lord bless your marriage,

HandS