Last weekend I attended the first Girls’ Ministry Forum here at LifeWay. About 200 people -- women who lead tgirls’ ministries in their churches, teenage girls and three brave male student ministers -- came to learn more about ministering to girls.
These people were passionate about helping girls become spiritually strong and healthy in their relationship with Christ. The forum offered more than a dozen conferences ranging from recognizing and using spiritual gifts, to how to teach teenage girls to pray, to using technology as an outreach tool.
A panel of girls’ ministry leaders answered questions during one of the large group sessions. One of the points brought up during this time was on sexting – sending sexually suggestive messages or photos via text messaging.
My head isn’t buried in the sand. I know this goes on. What I didn’ know is just how common the practice is among teenagers.
The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl.com commissioned a survey of teens and young adults to explore electronic activity in 2008. Note that was more than a year ago.
This survey said that 22 percent of teenage girls and 18 percent of teenage boys have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or videos of themselves. Let me repeat. They posted the pictures or videos themselves!
The survey also said that 37 percent of teenage girls and 40 percent of teenage boys said they had sent or posted sexually suggestive messages to someone.
Other statistics that bothered me:
– 15% of teenagers who have sent or posted nude or seminude images of themselves say they have done so to someone they only knew online.
– 48% of teenagers say they have received such messages.
– 71% of teenage girls and 67% of teenage guys who have sent or posted sexually suggestive content say they have sent or posted this content to a boyfriend or girlfriend.
– 21% of teenage girls and 39% of teenage boys say they have sent such content to someone they wanted to date or hook up with.
– 44% of both teenage girls and teenage boys say it is common for sexually suggestive text messages to be shared with people other than the intended recipient.
– 36% of teenage girls and 39% of teenage boys say it is common for nude or semi-nude photos to get shared with people other than the intended recipient
Is it just that these kids don’t realize that once they hit “send” they have lost all control of where that photo or video goes? How would that teenage girl feel if her nude photo was sent to her parents or her youth minister? How would that teenage boy feel if his picture was printed out and hung up all over his school? Once in cyberspace, that picture will never go away.
And, I’m not even going to go into the potential legal issues regarding pornography.
Culture is screaming at teenagers to make wrong and foolish choices. My prayers go out to these women -- and the men -- who minister to teenagers and who shoulder the tremendous responsibility of helping them develop a relationship with Christ. I applaud these girls’ ministry leaders who want to serve better by keeping informed on important matters, such as this one.
By Polly House
Editor, Facts and Trends Magazine