08.16.10
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting I... Recollecting vs. Reminiscing
There is a difference between recollecting and reminiscing. It is very important that small group leaders know the difference.
When someone is recollecting they…
- remember and regurgitate facts
- speak of the location of the event, how many people were there, who was there, what the group did, etc…
- show little emotion as listing facts doesn't evoke emotional triggers
- will seldom lead to discussing heart issues, seeking out emotional scars that need healing, relationships that need mending, burdens that group members need to help carry, or transformational moments worth celebrating
When someone is reminiscing they…
- recall experiences that engage the heart and flow from the heart
- speak of the feelings they experienced, the emotions they expressed, and the outcomes of doing so
- exhibit emotions as heart issues connect deeply with the inner person and as the individual relives the experience. Oftentimes the emotion expressed when reliving the experience is the emotion they couldn't express due to the setting where the situation occurred.
- is probably open to discussing heart issues, seeking out emotional scars that need healing, relationships that need mending, burdens that group members need to help carry, or transformational moments worth celebrating
It is important that small group leaders realize the difference between Recollecting and Reminiscing because, when someone is recollecting a small group leader may be able to move recollecting to reminiscing. And when someone is reminiscing the small group leader has a great opportunity to guide the individual into a transformational moment.
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