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10.08.10
Leaving LifeWay, Headed to NavPress... No Social Networking until November 1
I am now reminded of the first time our group birthed a new group. Leaving people you love seeing on a daily or weekly basis is a tough thing to do. I'll be doing that in just a few weeks.
Beginning November 1 I'll be spearheading the work of small groups at NavPress. This is a journey I am thrilled to be taking. Having the opportunity to shape the philosophy of a ministry is a great honor, one I have thought long and hard about.
I will miss the people and the ministry of LifeWay. She has been so very good to me. Every leader whose direction I served under, every person on the teams I've served with, every opportunity she has offered me, has blessed me more than I deserve.
So that I can reboot my own heart I'll be social networking silent until November 1. Phone conversations will be hard to come by and my e-mail address will be changing. Every once in a while each of us needs to get away and just "be" without feeling an obligation to be "doing." This is one of those times.
In case you're wondering… Yes, I will begin blogging, tweeting, and available to help you and your ministry in any way again on November 1. Please know that I will have a new blog site as the present one is a LifeWay site. I would be honored if you would continue to walk with me in my new journey at NavPress via the new blog. It will be up and running sometime around November 1.
I am looking forward to the next chapter of my life. Help me write it, will you?
08.30.10
Visionaries, God-Inspired Visionaries, and Taking Jesus to Every Street and Cul-de-sac
Throughout Christian history there have been Visionaries and there have been God-Inspired Visionaries. Visionaries are people who dream man-accomplishable dreams. God-Inspired visionaries are leaders who see in their mind's eye God-sized, humongous, unsettling, seemingly unattainable obligations. But unlike your run of the mill visionaries, God-Inspired visionaries are unable to consider that the vision God has given them is unattainable. In fact, when others discourage, discount, or try to dismantle the dream God has given them, they move forward undaunted, like a lion already in full pursuit of her prey completely aware that she will run it down and be successful. I spent the weekend in Tracy, California with some God-Inspired Visionaries.
Church leaders from various denominations, differing doctrinal ideologies, trained in seminaries with contradictory considerations have come together with a God-sized vision, to see 1,000 small groups started and accomplishing biblical community in a town of 80,000. I am dreaming this dream with them. Why? Because the passion of God-sized visionaries spills over on anyone who gets close enough to experience the intensity and intentionality of dreamers of this caliber.
Many senior pastors and small group pastors are simply visionaries. They envision having a healthy small group ministry for their church. They organize for it, build teams made up of individuals from their own congregation to make sure the machine runs smoothly, and get paid to do so. They do what the job description says and the Personnel Committee or Elders celebrate that they have a well-oiled small group machine for their one congregation.
Would it be that more small group pastors and senior pastors could become God-sized Visionaries, willing to join other church leaders to take on the entire community, the community where those far from Christ live, on streets and cul-de-sacs, in towns and villages, and urban areas and rural farmlands?
A few characteristics that will be necessary…
- A willingness to go on the adventure of a lifetime
- The courage to discount the dissenters and traditionalists
- An awareness that you will win the war but will be covered with the scars of the battle
- The ability to journey beyond ordinariness and settle in the land of extraordinariness
- A passion so cavernous that you will sacrifice more than those in your circle of relationship believe healthy or right
We can bring Jesus to the world through small groups but only if we can kill our competitive nature, agree that all believers are the church not just those attending my church or those who make up my denomination, embrace a unity of spirit setting aside secondary doctrinal concerns, make Jesus the centerpiece of the message, and become God-sized Visionaries.
I'm praying that there will be more God-sized Visionaries like the senior pastors, small group pastors, and volunteers I spent the weekend with in Tracy, California. Why? What is now "small group ministry" just might become a movement!
08.25.10
Six Practical Musts for any Small Group Ministry that Flourishes
I continue to hear of churches stating, "Small groups don't work." Reviewing the churches I've worked with I realized there are six consistent musts every church should do if they are going to have an effective small group ministry. Here they are…
Choose the right person to spearhead the small group ministry. The individual spearheading a small group ministry must be a proactive leader! They must be entrepreneurial, systems knowledgeable, strategy driven, with an unapologetically vehement passion for people. At the same time he/she must be able to create a blueprint for the ministry, build the ministry, and rebuild it if necessary while the vehicle is in motion. She/he must be secure enough to build a team that will shore up his/her weaknesses and be courageous enough to move the entire team in the direction the wave of God's work is going, even if it means revisiting the original plan.
Establish the primary principles and practices of your small group ministry. Getting the right principles and practices established is a necessity. Instill these in leaders at all levels of the small group ministry.
Separate from past paradigms and fully embrace small group life. Many people who really want to be great small group leaders are held captive by past experience. They have been Sunday School teachers or been involved with a 12 Step group or have been the leader of an Adult Bible Fellowship. If not well-trained (maybe retrained) they will revert back to that which is most comfortable, the group type they have been in or led in the past.
Don't develop the small group ministry too quickly. Many churches have demanded a small group ministry be birthed and be developing mature believers in just a few months. This is like asking a twenty-five year old woman to give birth to a child and, in two months, make sure that child looks like, acts like, and reproduces like a twenty-five year old woman. This is impossible. Juan Ramon Jimenez once wrote, "The great assassin of life is haste, the desire to reach things before the right time…" Building a foundation for a small group ministry is all about developing leaders and that takes time.
Realize that curriculum is not the key to life-transforming small groups. Discipleship is not knowledge based, it is relationally based. Curriculum is vital to spiritual growth but it is only one tool in the tool box. Churches who simply stick people in a small group as they work through another study will not ultimately make mature disciples. Being with people, doing life with them, journeying together, allowing group members to model the faith for one another, learning to practice the spiritual disciplines, learning to live in community, each group member using the spiritual gifts they have been given, and diving headlong into the processing of God's Words together, etc... are all part of the discipleship journey.
Don't promise those that join a small group that they will find their "friends" in their small group. Friendships are created when people have chemistry with one another and this doesn't always happen in a small group. Announce that the goal of a small group is to make disciples.
08.20.10
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting V... Praying the List vs. Praying in Faith
Praying the List and Praying in Faith is not the same thing. In fact, many people in groups have begun to believe God doesn't answer prayer because their group has been praying the list rather than praying in faith.
Groups that are praying the list…
- add anyone and anything to the list that comes to mind
- don't pray believing, if the truth were known they pray doubting that God will respond
- spend more time making the list (and telling the stories of those they are adding to the list) than they do praying
- don't understand that they are conversing with God, they are simply completing another requirement on the list of small group meeting expectations
- do not always realize God is much wiser than they and when He doesn't respond as they had expected begin to doubt His love for them
- never find themselves begging God and weeping on behalf of someone else
Groups that are praying in faith…
- find themselves going to God on behalf of the people they know, love, and care deeply about
- pray believing God is going to respond and are anticipating His acting on their behalf
- spend their time crying out to God and are not concerned when the meeting goes long if they sense the overwhelming presence of the Holy Spirit
- understand that they are conversing with Almighty Holy God and come before Him humbly making requests of Him
- realize God is much wiser than they and when He doesn't respond as they had hoped understand His wisdom trumps their longing
- sometimes find themselves begging God and weeping on behalf of someone else
Other Posts in this Series:
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting I... Recollecting vs. Reminiscing
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting II... 90 Percent of the Story vs. The Full Story
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting III... Advice Giving vs. Mining for Wisdom
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting IV... Accepting Opinion as Truth vs. Seeking God's Truth
08.19.10
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting IV... Accepting Opinion as Truth vs. Seeking God's Truth
Seeking God's Truth and Accepting Opinion as Truth is not the same thing. In fact, when a small group leader allows "my truth," an individual's choice of what truth is, to trump God's truth, false teaching has just occurred. It is extremely important that small groups, when studying the Bible, be in search of God's perspective.
A small group leader accepting opinion as truth…
- utilizes a worldview other than a biblical worldview as a starting point for the conversation
- doesn't realize the importance of knowing the context of a passage when studying it
- doesn't realize the responsibility of guiding the group to search for absolute truth
- doesn't know what absolute truth is or hasn't yet embraced absolute truth as reality
- allows the final word of the conversation to be someone's opinion of truth rather than ending the conversation by proclaiming God's truth as the final word
- does not realize a red flag has been raised when phrases like, "my opinion concerning what this means is," or "my experience would lead me to believe…" or "a friend of mine once told me that…" or "with what we know because of psychology and/or philosophy and/or science God that can't mean that…" etc…
A group leader seeking God's truth…
- utilizes a biblical worldview as the starting point for the conversation
- prepares and knows the context of the passage being studied before arriving at the small group meeting
- understands their role and the responsibility of guiding the group to find God's absolute truth
- knows what absolute truth is and has embraced absolute truth as reality
- is careful to be certain that the final word of the conversation is God's truth, not someone's opinion, as whatever is left hanging is perceived as what most believe the leader is embracing
- allows honest conversation but knows a red flag has been raised when phrases like "my opinion concerning what this means is," or "my experience would lead me to believe…" or "a friend of mine once told me that…" or "with what we know because of psychology and/or philosophy and/or science the Bible can't mean that…" or "the world has changed so much since the Bible was written so we have to be sure we filter what it means to us today…," etc… are verbalized.
Other Posts in this series:
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting I... Recollecting vs. Reminiscing
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting II... 90 percent of the Story vs. The Full Story
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting III... Advice Giving vs. Mining for Wisdom
08.17.10
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting II... 90 percent of the story vs. the Full Story
Hearing 90% of someone's story and hearing 100% of the story is not the same thing.
When hearing 90% of the story…
- you'll hear what is comfortable to the story teller
- you'll hear what was funny or factual
- you'll hear the part of the story that will not make anyone angry or disappoint anyone
- you'll hear the part of the story that will not open the door for the group to create any expectations of the story telling group member
When hearing the full story…
- you'll hear the parts of the story that are uncomfortable for the story teller to tell
- you'll hear the part of the story that birthed the inner tension, anger, disappointment, or scars that were created at the time the event happened
- you'll hear the part of the story that might anger other group members or cause someone to be disappointed in the story teller
- you'll hear the part of the story that will open the door for the group to create expectations of the story telling group member, expectations to deal with a broken relationship, overcome their judgmental attitude, wrestle with their perspective concerning the issue that created the tension, etc…
It is important that small group leaders realize the difference between hearing 90% of the story and hearing 100% of the story because, when a group member voices 90% of the story, the small group leader may be able to get them to share the last 10%. When someone tells 100% of the story, it is then that the leader of the group can lead the members of the group to help the story-telling group member gain right perspective of the experience, take responsibility for their part of the conflict (if it was a conflictual situation between them and someone else), and work in tandem with God to heal a scarred heart.
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting I... Recollecting vs. Reminiscing
08.16.10
Small Group Hairs Worth Splitting I... Recollecting vs. Reminiscing
There is a difference between recollecting and reminiscing. It is very important that small group leaders know the difference.
When someone is recollecting they…
- remember and regurgitate facts
- speak of the location of the event, how many people were there, who was there, what the group did, etc…
- show little emotion as listing facts doesn't evoke emotional triggers
- will seldom lead to discussing heart issues, seeking out emotional scars that need healing, relationships that need mending, burdens that group members need to help carry, or transformational moments worth celebrating
When someone is reminiscing they…
- recall experiences that engage the heart and flow from the heart
- speak of the feelings they experienced, the emotions they expressed, and the outcomes of doing so
- exhibit emotions as heart issues connect deeply with the inner person and as the individual relives the experience. Oftentimes the emotion expressed when reliving the experience is the emotion they couldn't express due to the setting where the situation occurred.
- is probably open to discussing heart issues, seeking out emotional scars that need healing, relationships that need mending, burdens that group members need to help carry, or transformational moments worth celebrating
It is important that small group leaders realize the difference between Recollecting and Reminiscing because, when someone is recollecting a small group leader may be able to move recollecting to reminiscing. And when someone is reminiscing the small group leader has a great opportunity to guide the individual into a transformational moment.
07.31.10
The Last Video... Saying Goodbye to a Discipleship Phenom... Thanks Avery
I was given oversight of the large group gatherings for a four day groups conference. From the very outset I knew we needed to honor and elevate those who had lived out Paul's most telling words to his protégé Timothy, " And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others." (2 Timothy 2:2) After all, this is one of the premiere responsibilities of every small group leader. I was simply seeking a four minute video of someone who had lived out 2 Timothy 2:2. I seldom use these terms but, "I was prompted by the Holy Spirit" to ask Avery Willis to be that person. I didn't know at the time just how significant that video would be.
You see, Avery was battling leukemia and was in the hospital. As we communicated it became apparent that getting these poignant four minutes was going to be difficult. He was very sick, I couldn't afford to get a crew to do the shoot, and we only had a few days to get this footage. Avery suggested we contact FBC Springdale, Arkansas. After all, they were right across the street from the hospital. Maybe they could do the shoot and e-mail the video file. I called with fear and trepidation. I was certain that, if they had a tech team, they were very busy people and would probably let me know they were unable to help. Just the opposite was true. Without any hesitation at all the leader of that team told me he'd send someone to do this for us… at no charge. We will forever be indebted to them.
You see… the short four minute video was Avery's last opportunity to cast vision for disciple-making. His home-going to heaven took place yesterday. In case you don't know the name Avery Willis, please allow me to share a few paragraphs from the obituary created by LifeWay Christian Resources where he worked for some years.
Willis retired as senior vice president for overseas operations of the International Mission Board in 2004. Prior to that appointment, he led the adult discipleship training department at the Sunday School Board (now LifeWay Christian Resources). "MasterLife" training materials have now been translated into more than 50 languages and continue to be published by LifeWay.
"The author of 'MasterLife' is with the Master," said Thom Rainer, president of LifeWay. "Avery Willis was a Baptist statesman 'par excellence.' His contribution to the cause of missions and missions education will have sustained impact for generations to come. He will be missed by all, and my prayer is that the Lord raises up others to continue where he left off for the cause of global missions and kingdom growth. I remember with gratitude the value of his ministry to my own life, especially through 'MasterLife' and his insightful book 'Biblical Basis of Missions.'"
In January of this year, Willis was diagnosed with an aggressive form of leukemia. Doctors, however, were surprised by a quicker-than-expected remission in February, which allowed Willis to return his attention to discipleship. During the next several months, he campaigned for a return to the Bible storying form of discipleship. Often used as a discipleship tool among oral cultures, Willis believed Bible storying could be an effective method in the U.S. as well.
Willis and other proponents of this discipleship method organized DNA 21: Reclaiming Discipleship in the 21st Century, which launched with a webcast from New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary in April.
Also while at LifeWay, Willis was instrumental in the release of "Experiencing God" by Henry Blackaby and Claude King, another important Bible study resource that has now been translated into more than 70 languages and recently celebrated its 20th anniversary in print.
We showed that four minute video at a worship experience during the conference, it was shot at the hospital. It was shown at a time when Avery himself was tweeting of his soon to be arrival with Christ in heaven. Claude King, co-author of Experiencing God and a man who himself was greatly affected by Avery quoted these verses when describing Avery's life, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day…" (2 Tim. 4:7-8a) Claude spoke with Avery on my behalf the day before his passing. Some were asking for the video so they could show it at their church. I wanted to make sure Avery was good with our distributing it. His response, "Distribute it freely." And so, here it is, Avery Willis' final message to all of us concerning discipleship.
Avery, thanks. We are forever indebted to you.
To see the video click on the link below to download.
07.29.10
Falling Out of an Airplane... Stories That Inspire and Instruct Small Group Members Are Vital
Real stories from real people inspire group members, create heroes for them, and are a model of what God can and will do if we are keeping our eyes open. Reading stories like the one you find below to your group members is like handing them a list of things to do. The difference, the list tells them what to do and is just more "instructional material." A story captures the heart while giving direction. I promise you, the story/heart is much more likely to motivate to action than the list.
Falling out of an Airplane, What Really Happened to Deb Douglas
Clumsy. No grace. That would be me. I fell out of a plane and went tarmac diving in Atlanta Hartsfield. I was on my way to Ridgecrest, NC to teach on small groups but I took an unplanned "trip". It was not a
vacation. Sections of the deplaning ramp were overlapping with the last section at a strange angle. My shoe caught in the gap and I went flying without a plane. The weight of my laptop in my backpack pushed me hard toward the grit, gravel, and grunginess of the gate area, continuing gravity's path over my head, slowing only when it collided with my neck, before landing onto the tarmac. The result was a crashed laptop, tarmac rash, bruises, sprained wrist, and a torn ligament. It could have been worse. Minutes later there's a fire truck, ambulance, 6 paramedics, police, and several supervisors.
That trip set into motion a series of events that I can only describe as God waves. Arriving in Ridgecrest, I was met by a car service driver for the 40-minute ride. After a quick stop for a burger, the driver announced he had calculated the number of his days left on this earth. I really wanted to focus on me and my pain; it was one of those kinds of moments. But this man had been put in my path for a
reason so I dove into listening to this man's concern and sharing truth with him. The number of days on this earth are not a matter of concern to me because my eternity began the day I asked Jesus to be my Lord. The driver continued to talk about death. I shared how God loves us and desires all of our days to be spent living in relationship with Him. As he pulled up to the doors at the camp, the driver said I was different than most of the people he drove, even those he had driven out to the camp in the past. I asked him why; his answer was the way I talked about God, as if He was real.
Two days later, I'm waiting for my ride back to the airport. The same driver pulls up in the midst of a mountain-rattling thunderstorm. Within seconds of stowing my umbrella and getting settled, the driver
tells me again how many days he has left on this planet. He's rattled from a near collision on the interstate. I comment about his obsession with death. He shared how his mother had said he could never go to heaven because of his life choices. He believed in God but could not accept a Jesus that would exclude him from heaven. I told him how much God loves all of us, no matter our choices, our sins. God is eager to forgive and be in a relationship with us. I explained how that relationship begins. At this moment, the man pulled the car over; tears are turning his eyes red. He says he can accept what I am saying
because he said he could see it in my eyes. He turns away and when he returns his gaze to me, he said, "you have changed my life." He had crossed the line of faith. I got to be the one who showed him how to get over his fear, to find the truth in the midst of lies.
I left the car rejoicing. If I'd done what I wanted to do after the fall, I would have gotten right back on the plane and headed home. But I had an appointment, a divine appointment. Feeling like I'd done what I had come to do, I settled in to wait for my delayed flight back to Atlanta. The possibility of making the Atlanta-Shreveport flight was slim but I hobbled my way through the airport. Arriving at the gate, I discovered the flight was held for me. I was in unbelief. I'm the person who stands and watches the plane she's suppose to be on lift off into the sunset, not have it wait an extra 15 minutes for me to arrive. As I make my way to the one remaining seat, I thanked all the growling passengers, unhappy to have had to wait for this person wrapped up in bandages.
I make it to my seat, and turn to thank the young man seated next to me. As our eyes meet, he says, "What's your philosophy on life?" For the next hour and a half, I answered questions centering on how to not only know who Jesus is historically but personally. He listened, talked through his previous perceptions, and relayed his story. The flight ended before he came to a place of acceptance. He thanked me, accepted my card, and said he saw things differently after our conversation.
If I hadn't had the fall, Delta would not have held the flight for me. I would not have had the opportunity to tell a young man that Jesus desires a relationship and how to make that happen. To be honest, if my hand hadn't been injured, I would have been on my phone, checking emails and texting instead of engaging in conversation with the car service driver.
Maybe it's like this: life gets busy. A little bump creates waves that take you places you would never imagine…away from the busy. Walking with Christ is about being read to ride the waves to where ever they are taking you. The choice is to either see the waves as a destructive tsunami or the wave that will give you the perfect ride. I'd rather surf the waves!
07.27.10
The Confused Group Movement... Sovereign Mayhem?
I just returned from the 4G Conference. The goal of the event was to draw church leaders from four group types together for open dialogue, networking with one another, to inspire them as they spearhead a group movement, and to offer training. Four group types were represented… Small Groups, Discipleship Groups, Missional Groups, and Sunday School. One of the big takeaways for me was that group types seem to have lost their own identities. When an individual would describe a small group a Sunday School person would say, "You've just described a good Sunday School class," and visa versa. When someone brought up a Discipleship Group, someone in the room who would ask the individuals in the conversation to consider that, when Christ followers gather together and are engaged in biblical community discipleship is taking place. When Missional Groups came into the conversation there ALWAYS seemed to be someone reminding the gathered group that all group types are suppose to be and must be Missional.
Not so long ago it was easy to determine what type of group a group was, simply find out what curriculum the group was using. Not so today. Group leaders are choosing what once was specifically designed for deep discipleship in community-driven small groups. Sunday School classes are using small group resources instead of quarterlies, the weekly Bible studies designed just for an ongoing Sunday School class. Discipleship Groups may not be using any curriculum as they believe that the Sticky Church method will accomplish life-change in the people they are hoping to turn into fully devoted followers of Jesus. It's obvious, there's pandemonium in our ranks.
I must confess… I am beginning to wonder if this mayhem is a God thing and that He is using these conversations to bring us back to the purity of biblical community life. Is it possible that…
- we church leaders found our identity in the group type we became known for so we differentiated some principles and practices, wrote the books and built a following, and have been protecting our own brand rather than blessing and honoring any group living out biblical first century community?
- if the leaders in all of these movements came together after spending serious time in God's Word finding out what a small biblical community does, we would all agree that we've missed the boat and that the entire book of Acts really is the guide for group life, not the latest book on the subject?
- if we set aside our own paradigms of group life and simply made a list of all that the early believers experienced, sacrificed, and practiced as we peered purposefully into the book of Acts we'd find out that all of our diagrams and lists and clever acronyms would be replaced with an ongoing, fresh, and chaotic movement of the Holy Spirit, a responsibility to call group members into Americanized martyrdom rather than church membership, and that group members actually need one another so they can survive a culture that sees them as radical, ridiculous, religionists who have bought into the Jesus thing.
- when we stand before God He may ask us why we didn't lead those involved in our small group ministries to be the church at all costs rather than simply requiring them to carry out the organizations (the local churches) request to attend a small group or Sunday School class, a group or class designed to involve them in church life, rather than engage them in the radical Christian life Jesus expected us to live?
These ponderings are haunting me this morning.

